How to tame a crazy woman
Are you having problems with your wife or girlfriend and feel that she is one discussion away from an aneurysm? Does he yell and yell at the slightest provocation? Do you feel like she will never be happy and that she gets so crazy that you think you could just up and walk away?
If you feel this way, you are not alone. We’ve all heard of crazy women and I’m sure the guys get together and they all talk about wild arguments with tiger wives and how crazy their women can get over the slightest incident.
But let me tell you, taming a crazy woman is actually so easy, you would be surprised. For Adriana Lima it’s as easy as making a man hard. The key to calming her down and making her love you again is to treat her the right way AND doing it QUICKLYbefore it starts to boil.
During an argument, men want to take some time to let the air clear or to think things over, but when a woman starts to get upset, you need to calm her anger quickly. Space and time to think make her spiral out of control and in Crazyville.
His madness is actually a plea for your love and help
The best way to disconnect her from her crazy place is talk to her hurtnot to his anger.
Every ‘crazy’ woman has a musky center. In fact, I’d wager that the crazier the woman (I’m using crazy loosely here, if she’s really crazy and suffering from mental illness then that’s a different article) the more maudlin the center. Loud, explosive, volatile, furious, and rant women are actually extremely sensitive and experience very intense pain.
A woman acts crazy because she feels that she is emotionally in survival mode. She feels, in that moment, something so strong inside that I would compare it to being pushed out of a car in the middle of the desert and having nowhere to go. She feels abandoned and all alone. In fact, I have spoken with clients who say that a man who emotionally abandons them hurts them worse than if he had punched her in the face.
You could have done something you felt was petty, dumped her for the weekend, or told her you didn’t think you were ready for a commitment, but to her, you could just as well have told her that she’s a nasty piece of trash. . Yes, it is that extreme of a feeling for her.
Does the fact that she acts crazy mean she has low self-esteem? Not necessarily. What I would equate with her having low self esteem is more how YOU behave in the relationship. If you are not an honorable, completely honest, generous, loyal, and tender man with her, then she has low self-esteem. Why? Because women with healthy levels of self-confidence only waste their time with good men. If you embody all of these great qualities and she is still constantly looking out for you like a raging hyena, she would say that she is mentally ill or that you are unclear about what she needs from you.
See, women need different things than men think they need. A man could be doing all the right steps with a woman (buying her things, listening to her, falling in love with her, pleasing her sexually, making her laugh, etc.), but if he isn’t emotionally available to her (opening up, talking about commitment, expressing a desire to take care of her for a long time, inviting her into his life by revealing his secrets, staying in the room during an argument, etc.), then she may feel that he is not safe.’
WOMEN NEED TO FEEL SAFE. If you get nothing from this article, please know a lot about us. By security, I don’t mean financially or spiritually, I mean emotionally. We need to feel like you’re not going to abandon us when times get tough, or hide parts of yourself from us, or make your need for validation from all women more important than your need to be loved exclusively by us. If we feel that you are overly concerned with how other women see you or that you prioritize your ‘manly liberties’ over us, we will feel insecure around you.
How to tame a crazy woman
The GOOD NEWS is that you can turn off his ‘crazy’ in a jiffy. You can take it from 60 to 2 in a matter of seconds. How? You have to connect with his heart instead of trying to rationalize with the crazy freaky part of her throwing the remote at your head. I repeat: STOP RATIONALIZING WITH HER.
Now, by speaking from the heart, I don’t mean a sympathy speech (“Baby, you know I love you. Why are you acting like that? I don’t want to hurt you, baby”). Please do not do it. talk to him like you have some idea of a stud who can wheedle girls. She will see through him. Even if she buys it, she will go crazy again in a few days. Why? Because you’re really not being honest, you’re just telling her what she wants to hear.
To speak to a woman’s heart, you have to come from a genuinely loving place. You have to be able to see the scared little girl with a pink tail and a full lip that’s under all that screaming. She is there, I promise you, and she is TERRIFIED and DESPERATE for your love.
Right now, imagine what your wife looked like as a child. How ADORABLE was she? Was she dumb, dumb, shy, loud? Was she short, plump, freckled or brave? Take a moment to see it in her head and fall in love with that adorable little princess (or tomboy) who could give the devil back his angel wings with a toothless grin.
Do you feel that part of you right now that cares for her? Do you feel that part of you that wants to take care of her, protect her, hug her and kiss her gently? That feeling has to be the springboard for your communication with her when she is on the brink of madness.
When she looks like she’s about to get angry: Look her in the eye, connect with her (even if you have to get in her face), and tell her that she’s your everything and you’re sorry. You don’t have to apologize for your actions if you feel like you weren’t wrong, but my God, apologize for the way you made her feel.
Do it calmly and touch her while sending her love with your eyes. She needs to know that you’re listening (not with your ears, but with ALL of your attention) and that you want to help her feel safe again. Her (she acts maniac because she feels insecure).
Don’t talk bad to him! Talk to her like you KNOW she’s better than the way she acts, but that you’re not superior to her just because she’s hyperemotional.
Then I want you to wait for her to connect with you and calm down. She may keep screaming and screaming for a few seconds, but you have to stay with her and not give up on that little girl in her. it is your duty, as her man, to take care of that little girl inside that angry woman and attend to her young and scared feelings.
You can still tell him to stop yelling, throwing things, blaming, etc. Be firm, be direct but be an adult with that girl. Once her ‘little boy’ starts yelling at you, calling her crazy, abandoning her or obstructing her, you have he lost his power. You have become as childish as her.
be an honorable man
Defusing a woman’s crazy anger isn’t going to work if you just talk the talk and don’t walk the walk. You can’t speak to a woman’s heart and then turn around the next day and treat her like an option, a doormat, a sex kitten, a baby mama, the biggest fan in your fan club, etc. You gotta treat her like…are you listening?…she holds your worth as a man in his heart
She has to be your priority, your confidante, YOUR safe place, your idol, your light at the end of the tunnel, your precious saving angel, your ego boost. And I know right now you want to tie her to a tree, soap her up with honey, and leave her like a starving bear, but if you can have the trust to stop listening to her dark side that is in survival mode and start loving the little girl inside of her will change everything in a matter of days.
The beautiful thing about women is that if you make them feel safe in the way I mentioned above, 9 out of 10 will step up and be a safe place for you. They will keep all your secrets, keep your dreams alive and fill your life with light.
‘Crazy’ women (overly emotional and explosive) are no exception. In fact, crazy girls have a gorgeous side. Crazy women have a side that LOVES a man. Why? Because they are more childish than other women (remember the girl) and they see you like a daughter does a fatherAdoring eyes and a radiant glow from her being!
When your lady freaks out, remember that she is not aiming at you or trying to hurt you. I know that she feels that way; I know you think she’s a sadist with a big pair of tits, but her anger isn’t for you. It’s about what you’ve unleashed inside her: feel that she is fighting for his life. I know it sounds weird and dramatic, but it’s true. If you speak to him from the heart and really try to LISTEN to his pain and tell him that you’re sorry and that you always want to take care of his feelings, he won’t know what to do. You will have saved her from you. This is how she will feel, like you came and rescued her from the you that you were a minute ago. You will be her hero, even if you were the instigator.
*If you are being physically abused, leave her or seek counseling.