Do you have Grit?
What role does sand play in your life?
After finishing an extensive scientific article collected by the national media,
my mind raises the question of sub-vox,
“What is the writer saying in plain English?”
If I leave the answer blank, the page is removed.
“A Penn researcher studying high achievers says it’s not IQ, grades, or leadership skills that lead to success. It’s good old-fashioned perseverance.”
The essence of the research is that success in everything is about ‘passion’,
(intense emotion), which is awakened through ‘courage’. A synonym for courage is courage or willpower, heart and perseverance.
And that?
The proforma answer should now list all the ‘positive’ emotions that produce
passion and determination, starting with love, joy and tranquility.
Surprise! The intense emotions that trigger determination begin with anger, envy, fear, and jealousy. In fact, we are motivated ten to one by ‘negative emotions’ to create massive changes in our lives.
“That’s not fair! I deserved that promotion. I’m smarter than her. Look at that.
New Mercedes in your driveway, son of … It should be mine. Something has to
exchange! And the killer negative feedback motivator, “You can’t talk to me like that!”
University of Pennsylvania Professor Angela Lee Duckworth Tells The Secret
sand is “doggedly pursuing something long-term.” You sure know
But given that the typical American watches television for up to five hours a day, who has time to
courage and / or passion?
Left and right brain skills
What about ‘ordinary people’, without exaggerated IQs, who believe
successes?
“Perseverance and determination is the secret because we learn from our ‘mistakes’.
Working on a skill on a daily basis produces ‘Kaizen’, small improvements that
they add to massive reactions. We improve, little by little, until we own the ability
or knowledge through practice “.
Why do they call it “trial and error”, not “trial and success”?
Answer.
We learn from our mistakes and rejections, not from successes because the secret is
negative feedback. Mistakes make us feel stupid and we get angry. The result is to punish ourselves to learn to avoid these mental and emotional insults.
Once we have learned the successful strategy, we keep repeating it until it continues.
autopilot. That is called programming or conditioning, not learning. We learn by
obsess over our mistakes and rejections (negative feedback) and demand
a practical solution.
Successful people become compulsive in overcoming their ignorance in a particular area; negativity causes passion and determination. When you can spit your nails out of frustration, another negative emotion, you are the goal of winning.
Courage and passion were mutually reinforcing, activating our left and right brain at a 75% / 25% ratio, instead of the normal 90/10. Courage (courage), changes the structure and function of our brain, starting with our state of mind. Interrupt
your comfort zone, and you will work 90 hours a week to pass the bar exam
because your image of yourself is at stake.
Examples of
Research on 1,223 freshmen entering West Point best predicted success
than IQ, SAT scores, and previous grades. This matter of determination was a better predictor of winning than anything else for contestants in a National Spelling Bee and children in
an elite preparatory school. It applies to them and to all of us.
Until you get mad, excite the amygdala of your brain, you and I will seek distractions and refuse to take the time to win the marbles. If you are not passionate about something in a negative way, it is an impossible dream, not a reality.
Final words
Professor Duckworth has the gall to say: Courage is more important than intelligence.
Grit (heart), trains us to overcome obstacles. She is working on how
train people to have this brave ability.
The reason courage and passion are in short supply is not the availability of television, the Internet, and video games. It is boredom that covers us like a wet blanket in a
storm every time we decide that what we are reading, watching and listening to is not linked
For our benefit. Remember the powerful question: WIIFM (What’s in it for me?)?
Our ego has this WIIFM sign nailed to our imagination screen. There’s a
immediate disconnection as soon as the answer is “Nothing!”
Courage and passion keep us focused on discovering the details of any new idea or knowledge that is in tune with our deepest needs and desires.
Convince us that we can benefit from what you have to say, and we are all glued to
the chair in a trance. Professor Abraham Maslow said, ‘Self-interest makes us
in the flow, in the zone, and produces a maximum experience. ‘
All it takes to wake up is to respond to WIIFM with “A lot!”
A. Einstein said, “None of my discoveries came from logical thinking. Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
Edward Lorenz at MIT, created The Butterfly Effect, and its principle,
“Small changes lead to massive reactions. Predictability: Does the flap
of the wings of a butterfly in Brazil, caused a tornado in Texas? “
Finally
Can you answer these two questions?
1. What was the last thing that you became obsessive and compulsive about?
2. What does it take to awaken your courage and passion?
Our system for empowering people to have courage is not talking to death, but offering
specific skills for dealing with boredom and normal distractions.
We call them BIS (TM) Behavioral Intelligence Strategies, two minute energy programs
to condition your mind to determination and passion.
You will recognize them by the six steps to practice. It is always your decision
if you learn these techniques.
Do you have to lose your income (downsizing, outsourcing merger, or bankruptcy), before you get angry enough to decide to change your destiny?
My friend’s mom from San Antonio used to say, “A little grits goes a long way.”
Be brave and win your personal game.
See you,
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H. Bernard Wechsler
www.speedlearning.org