The art of processing emotions
Many of us spend hours processing the emotions we experience in our lives. It is in the belief that if we came to a place of resolution with them, we would be happier and/or more present in our lives. Processing emotions is a skill that many have difficulty doing, especially if they were not taught as children to identify what they were feeling. Millions have difficulty processing their emotions, so if you perceive that you fit into this category, don’t feel alone.
Processing emotions is as much an intellectual skill as it is a bodily experience. We may be able to express the emotion, remember the memory related to the feeling but not have a real connection with it in our body. Which can make us feel disconnected from the experience itself and from our own body.
Being able to perceive emotions includes feeling the entire experience in our physical body. It is feeling where our body feels uncomfortable when we are upset and all our bodily reactions included. When we do this we teach ourselves to be more present in our body. The more we live with this kind of awareness, the more intense anger feels, but also joy and happiness. We begin the process of leaving the life of confused emotions where we feel little and remaining in a worldly expression of our feelings to a fuller range of ourselves.
One of the keys to getting out of worldly life is learning to feel the emotions of our past. What we have emotionally repressed is often one of the blocks that prevents us from feeling ourselves. If we can tap into those energetic memories on a bodily level, we can begin the process of releasing them forever. Our cognitive recall of these experiences only gives us the information from our mind that we have to address what our body has stored so that they actually go away.
What I have discovered is that much of our anxieties, worries, anger, etc. diaries always have a source in our past. So when I experience the emotion I stop, sit and feel it. The first step is to locate where you feel the distress in your body. If you can’t identify it in your body, ask your body consciousness to come up so you can feel it. Or simply ask your body, “Where is the feeling of this emotion located?”
Our bodies can do this. They are complex sensory organs that can give us massive amounts of information if we ask them to. It is important to know that the body wants us to discover these things because it will be much easier for it not to carry these repressed emotions.
When we are able to identify the location of the feeling of the emotion, sit down and be present with it. Set your awareness to perceive the full intensity of the experience of it. Just watch, if we judge it we re-traumatize ourselves with the experience, for example don’t go into how bad it was. Even if a memory comes up, just be present with it.
Once you sense that you are in touch with the full energetic memory of the experience, ask your body, “Is there a deeper source from which this emotion originated?” See if another sensation appears in your body, it may be somewhere else or even below where you have been working. Begin the process of perceiving the full intensity of the energy memory again. Your presence with him will be the catalyst for his release.
When we release these experiences we will begin to feel a lightness in our body. It feels like the energetic rocks are being removed from us giving way to a higher body awareness which is usually perceived as a lighter sensation. It is a part of the process of knowing yourself completely.
As I dig deeper into this process, I find that sometimes I need to cry to help myself grieve or hit or scream into pillows to fully release my anger. When I do this, I stay focused on the intensity of the energy in my body, I don’t put my attention on the person I’m angry with, like imagining their face on the pillow. It’s about identifying and releasing your own anger, not projecting it onto someone else. An important distinction.
What I have found is that by using the Access Energy Transformation tools, I am able to release these pent up emotions more effectively. Access releases thoughts, beliefs and emotions at the cellular level. When used directly with the identification of energetic emotional experience, the release is very dynamic and permanent. I have seen my life change and I have witnessed huge transformational changes in others by using these amazing tools.
When we begin to live in a place where we are not influenced by our suppressed emotions, we begin to live with a fuller presence in ourselves. Our past no longer provokes us in our daily interactions. It is a wonderful freedom. We experience anger, sadness and happiness more fully from a more realistic perception.