Is she a keeper or a user? 5 Big Red Flags Telling You To Run!

Much has been said about how to avoid ‘bad’ male dating. But what about all those women or girls who have no interest in your heart or mind, but only in what you can do for them? Do you want to be used? Do you want to be heartbroken? If you don’t, then you’d better put your masculine pride aside and learn to avoid such women, no matter how impressive they look. The telltale signs are there from the start, if your eyes and mind are open.

Here are 5 huge red flags that, if they appear, suggest that you should run in the opposite direction and never look back:

1 – She has made it clear that she expects you to take her somewhere ‘fancy’ on your first date, on your own, of course. Of course you want to make a good impression, so fast food places are out. However, there is nothing wrong with going for a good cup of coffee in a nice place where you can relax; there is absolutely no need to go to an expensive dinner on your first date. She shouldn’t expect it either. After all, they are trying to get to know each other, so the simpler but comfortable and calmer the environment, the better. If you’re going to a concert or the like, make sure you have time before or after for a quiet hour together to see if there’s a match. Again: it is not and should not be a super fancy place. There is no need. Whether she expects it, she is either a gold digger or a prima donna, and you must avoid both types if you want to be loved instead of used.

2 – She is much more interested in your car than in your thoughts. Whether she seems unimpressed with your modest car or enamored with your expensive car, she is a sure sign of a materialistic person. Those who like “things”, as a rule, are not interested in emotional upbringing and mutual psychological support. So why bother?

3 – She canNo focus on you (especially your thoughts and emotions). All she seems to be doing is worrying about her clothes, other people’s clothes, her makeup, or that expensive wine you ordered. When you try to open up to her, she gets a blank look on her face, like she’s going to sleep or just thinking about something else. This is a sure sign that she is unwilling or unable to connect with you: a sign that you need to run now.

4 – She is flirting with other guys by the time you look away. If she can’t help but flirt with others now that she should be so into you, well, what happens later, when things ‘fade’ a bit (all relationships cool a bit over time)?

5 – She constantly expects you to pay. Of course, if she’s of modest means and you’re wealthy, it’s only fair that she shoulder the greater financial burden of her mutual entertainment. However, when it’s her turn to do something for the two of you, she doesn’t have to be expensive. Does she ever take you out for dinner or a cheap snack somewhere? Do you pay for at least something, like a milkshake or a movie? If he seems to treat you like a sugar daddy now, what makes you think he’ll ever change? It will never change, even if you lose your job one day. She will always expect you to pay.

So, if your first date(s) have revealed one of the red flags above, you should seriously consider whether this girl or woman is right for you. I would say absolutely no. But what if he has passed the test?