Do men just want sex?

You just met this great guy and he’s taken you on some dates. They have known each other for a couple of weeks and they really like it. Tonight in particular, he has ended up at home on his cozy couch, watching a movie. The movie is over, and suddenly things have gotten hot. He is making moves and you feel like he wants to go all the way. Suddenly all kinds of questions enter your mind: Do I really want this? Is this too soon? Will you like me the next day? Do you just want sex from me? How do I know if you really like me? Do I really want to have sex? Am I really enjoying this? What are you really thinking? Do men just want sex? That I have to do?

Have you ever had any of these thoughts? If you’re like most women, you probably have. Well, do you want an honest guy’s perspective? Do you want to know what goes through the boy’s mind in this situation? Keep reading! Before we begin, let’s clarify something immediately. Do men just want sex? No. But many women complain that men only want sex. And unfortunately, some men feel bad about this and decide to suppress their sex drive, when, in fact, there should be nothing wrong with men wanting to have sex. It is completely normal and the truth is that yes, most men want to have sex. After all, women, you wouldn’t want to have a guy who isn’t sexually interested in you, right?

So if that’s the truth, how do you know if you are having sex too soon, if he really likes you, if he will call you the next day and what is he really thinking about? As a disclaimer, I would like to say that the following advice is primarily for those who choose to have sex before marriage. Ultimately, my advice is to always follow your heart. If in your heart you believe that waiting to get married before having sex is the right thing to do for you, then the easy answer for you is to just wait. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise just because it may seem like everyone else is rushing into bed or because the media is very explicit about sex. But for those of you who are struggling with the decision of when is the right time to have sex, read on.

Believe it or not, men are very simple creatures. The truth is, men often don’t think long before doing something, especially in situations where all the blood flows south, away from our brains. So now that we’ve covered what’s going through a man’s mind in the heat of the moment, let’s help understand men in general, because the more you understand them, the better decisions you’ll make for yourself. Remember that ultimately all men want is to make you happy. But it is very difficult, if not impossible, to respect your wishes and wishes, if you do not express them or respect them yourself. The fact that a man wants to have sex with you and is physically attracted to you does not necessarily mean that he also feels an emotional, mental and / or spiritual attraction.

Healthy chemistry and attraction between men and women often develop differently. Men are generally attracted to women physically first and only after that, mentally and emotionally. Women, on the other hand, usually develop a mental or emotional attraction first, and only after that is the physical part activated. This explains why women can easily misinterpret men’s advances of wanting to have sex to mean that he must take care of her too. Since, intuitively, the woman would generally want sex only if she felt that she really cared for the boy, she will now assume the same is true for the boy, in reverse. So before you have sex, make sure you are not mistakenly setting yourself up to be hurt. Don’t assume that because he is physically attracted to you, he cares about you too.

My second tip explains why waiting to have sex later can be a win-win situation. Women often make another mistake in thinking that if you don’t have sex with a man, his interest in you will decrease. This is simply not true. While it’s true that men want to have sex, it’s also true that waiting to have sex later can increase the passion in your relationship and work to your advantage.

Many women have heard stories of men who left their friends, or have experienced it themselves, for reasons of not having had sex. This automatic association is simply not true. While there are many men who are just looking for sex, and while it is true that if you dated one of these men they would probably leave you because you did not have sex with them, men who really care about you will. I’m not leaving you for that. And if you were looking for a more serious relationship, you would be glad that those who were looking for sex really left. If a man really likes you for who you are and cares about you since you’re dating, he wouldn’t leave you for not having sex.

Some of you may already doubt what I am saying, but let me explain further. Over the past ten years, I have seen, experienced, and come into contact with an increasing number of very nice and caring guys who want a relationship to work just as much as women. The truth is, men today also yearn for a fulfilling, loving, and happy relationship. While there are also a lot of jerks who often give men a bad name, almost daily I have come in contact with a lot of really nice guys who really want relationships to work out.

Even though these men, if they dated you and they liked you, would probably want to have sex with you, they wouldn’t leave you just because you wanted to wait while they met. In fact, the more they like and know you, the more likely they will want the occasion to be special too. Realize that the fact that a guy waits to have sex helps him figure out how much he would like to be intimate with you. This gives the passion in your relationship a chance to grow even more.

There is wisdom in waiting. While you are waiting to have sex with him, he will have the opportunity to find out first if he really likes you and cares about you. If you can make your dating experiences positive without sex, this delayed gratification will also help you get through those difficult times in your relationship when you disagree. The more he experiences being successful in making you happy while you are dating, the more confident he will have in himself when times get tough and you are not always as happy with him as you were in the beginning.

Realize that waiting to have sex by the time you feel like you’re ready can help increase the passion in your relationship and help your guy become the best man he can be. As long as you feel hopeful and have managed to make you happy, I promise you there is no threat in saying no to your progress.

So if in the heat of the moment you feel like you’re not ready, here’s what you can safely say: “Hey, I really like you and this feels so good, but I’m not ready to go any further yet. I like to go slow. By saying this, you have communicated to him that you want him to wait, but you have also done so in a way that also tells him that he has made you happy. In fact, you’ve given him the courage to keep chasing you. If you ignore your wishes, repeat the phrase and be firm.

It is important that you communicate your wishes to him in a way that does not make him wrong for wanting sex, but at the same time makes it clear that you expect him to respect you as well. The more mature you are and the better you know yourself, the easier it will be for you to know when is the right time for you. In the end, follow your heart and remember that the more you respect yourself, the more others will respect you. And this applies to both men and women.