6 ways you can make a girl want to call you

So let me paint the picture: you see a hot girl in a club, a mall or the tennis club. You develop the guts of her to talk to her, make her laugh and somehow manage to get her number. You think to yourself “SWEET! I’m in.”

You end up calling her a couple of days later, as the rule book suggests… to ask her out. She does not answer. You think, “Hey, she’s probably busy,” and try again later that day. You still don’t get an answer. So you call back and finally get a response. You talk to her expecting things to pick up where you left off and are completely flabbergasted when she starts making excuses as to why she can’t meet you. She says that she will contact you and she never does. You’re left scratching your head, thinking to yourself “Where did it go wrong?”

Rule no. Tip #1: Contact her no sooner than 36-48 hours

I know it sounds difficult, right? But you have to stick to these rules. Because when you wait the 36-48 hours, you’re less likely to appear needy.

I have seen cases where, a few minutes after the date, a text message arrives. Not great. Do you know why? Because you just walked all the mystery out the door.

Just make sure that when you follow this rule you don’t wait too long after 48 hours. More than four days and the girl (if she’s interested in you) starts to get mad that you didn’t call her within that “call period” and she assumes you’re not interested.

Rule #2: Send warm-up texts

You know that getting a date is like making a sale. Except the item you’re selling is yourself. So, in other words, you’ll have to look like something she wants to date or buy.

Now, that doesn’t mean being something you’re not. But it does mean that you’re operating within certain guidelines for now until you’ve internalized all this “game stuff”… so bear with me, okay?

So as part of this, stick to the rule of texting her first before you call her. All the girls are comfortable with messages. In fact, we like them better to begin with. Seeing is great for us and it’s great for you too. It means you can actually think about what you want to write, you don’t have to think on the spot.

Now the main agenda with texting is heating her up. Let her know that you are on her radar and that you will be in touch with her soon.

If a guy messages us within two days of giving up our number, that’s enough for us to know you’re interested without seeming really needy and chickeny.

In general, you want messages to be short and sweet. Pranks are always acceptable, but 10 posts in 1 full length is not. Do your best to be the one to end the text conversation. So when you see the conversation coming to an end, let her have the last word and don’t message her back.

Some of my friends have a problem with this, because they feel like they’re in control by being the ones calling the shots. But you have to look at it from the point of view that YOU are the one in control because you have the strength to stop the message first.

Rule #3: Message to call her on the phone

It’s that direct. If you find that the woman you are interested in is not answering your calls but she is texting you, immediately after receiving a text, call her. Chances are, she’s standing by her phone and has to answer it!

Rule #4: Keep it light and casual

When you call a woman for the first time, it is not the best time to engage in a deep and meaningful conversation with her. You actually want to keep things fairly informal and short.

The first thing you want to do when you call the girl up is break the ice and make her laugh. Essentially, you want her to return to the same state she was in when she gave you that phone number. The best way to do this is to refer to something that happened the last time she saw her. Maybe reference a joke you found funny on her before and provide her with updated content. This will bring her back to that place and help her feel more comfortable with you.

That’s the thing with phone calls. You want to be able to establish comfort before you even consider asking her out. If a girl doesn’t think she’ll be comfortable with you or that she won’t be able to trust you, then she won’t even consider going on that date with you.

So remember the rule, keep it light and casual. She breaks the ice and make her laugh before you even consider asking her out.

Rule #5 – Keep it short and sweet

This type of continuation of the other points. But seriously, don’t talk too much. Like five minutes. As a general rule of thumb with all this gaming and dating stuff… Less is always MORE!

You don’t have to get an update on what this girl has been up to in the last two days. She doesn’t have to know about all of her past relationships before they date.

All you have to get a girl to do…is get to know you, like you and trust you and then you can make her go anywhere and do almost anything with her.

Rule #6 – Leave a voicemail – that’s it!

If you have to leave a voicemail, make sure it’s just one. When courting a girl, you must remember to give her the space to think about you. If you constantly try to get in the way of her space, then she won’t appreciate it at all.

So with a voice mail, you have to remember to keep it short and sweet. You don’t have to repeat your number and all that boring stuff. Just leave a short message and then hang up.

So what should you say? Something that prompts her to call you back usually works. It can also be an opportunity for you to challenge him. For example: “Hi Susie. This is John. I just wanted to let you know that I’ve tried and tested your voicemail and it’s working fine. I’d appreciate a thank you phone call.”

So when you call a girl, keep in mind that you might get her voicemail, so know what you’re going to say if this happens. There’s nothing worse than a long, breathless voicemail message with a guy who doesn’t know what she’s talking about, who is wasting her time and her credit!

Troubleshooting

• Before you give up try these things first. Message first. If the girl texts you back, then her chances of talking to her again are much higher.
• If you message a girl and she doesn’t reply… and this message contained a call to action on her behalf. So you should know that you are going to have to do a lot of work to get this girl to go on a date with you.
• Persistence isn’t the only tool you need. There is no point in doing the wrong thing over and over again in the hope of getting a positive result in the end.
• Remember to warm up a girl with you. You can tell a girl has warmed to you when she laughs at your jokes and the conversation flows.
• When a girl talks easily, it means that she is comfortable with you. If you find that she is quieter than usual, then something is up and she doesn’t feel comfortable, because A = she thinks you’re a weirdo or B = she hasn’t warmed to you yet.
• As for what you should talk to her about… your main goal is to be cocky, funny, make her laugh and have a good time.
• Keep it short and sweet and always leave her wanting more.