Relationship

Why do boyfriends abuse their girlfriends?

The best answer I can give for ‘Why do boyfriends abuse their girlfriends?’ It is: Because they don’t know any better. If you have been or are being abused verbally, emotionally and physically by your boyfriend, here is what you need to know to change your situation now …

All the reasons why boyfriends abuse their girlfriends point to the same conclusion. Boyfriends abuse their girlfriends verbally, emotionally, or physically because they are unaware that their behavior is hurting someone. If they have a conscience, they just don’t care enough about their girlfriends to stop hurting them. This is not normal. My experience is that most men are extremely decent, loving and caring people, who have strong desires to protect and love the people they care about, especially the women in their life.

If you find yourself in a relationship in which your boyfriend abuses you, I encourage you to give yourself the opportunity to expand your social circle and meet men from different walks of life. To do this, spend time in a completely different place. Go to a NICE place you’ve never been before. Dress as neatly as you can and watch how other men behave around the women they are with. Do your own experiment observing at least 10 different men. Keep a notebook and record your observations on the way they dress and behave, especially towards women or their girlfriends. If a man comes and talks to you, smile demurely and let him do the talking. If he abuses you in any way or makes you feel uncomfortable, stay away from him. There is no need to retaliate and abuse it. Just walk away or yell for help. Do something different.

In life, it is so important that we don’t keep doing the same thing while waiting for a different result. Think about it: if you want to color a sun yellow, but keep using the same red crayon over and over again, how are you going to achieve the result you want? The only chance you have to color your Sun yellow is to use a different crayon, even if you don’t know what other crayons you have yet. Yes, you may end up with a lot of different colored suns on your paper, but at least you used all the pencils you had, rather than just being stuck with something that has already proven unsuitable for your needs.

So what I’m saying is: if you want to have a boyfriend who treats you with love, consideration and affection, choose a different boyfriend. Don’t stick with a boyfriend who has already proven incapable of consistently behaving with verbal, physical, and emotional decency and affection. Men don’t really change that much. And it’s not your job to hang around and see if a guy ever changes. It is your job to take good care of yourself. Once your abusive boyfriend has already shown you that he is a “red crayon”, he is not what you are looking for. Gather as much courage and self-love as you can and go on a new and better journey instead. Ask others for help and support. Give yourself the gift of opening yourself up to better possibilities. Learn from your mistakes so that you can choose your boyfriend more carefully and wisely in the future.

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