The dangers of not knowing who you are

As I sit here and reflect on how my heart aches to see women walking around in cute outfits, flawless makeup, and great work, and a man, but deep down, they still feel like something is missing. Look, having all of that, you’d think the woman was passing by when you look from the outside. But oh, when she goes home and has to face herself in the mirror, that woman looking at her doesn’t look all that glamorous. I mean, I used to walk around with my hair done, nails and toes done, bad outfit, and I was making some money, so it looked like I was doing it, well, guess what; this was doing my breaking time and i was a hot tattered mess!

This kind of life for me for years and it got out of control, I was so focused on not letting anyone see my pain that it masked it. Now that was really dangerous because every time I was feeling a little sad, I would go out and shop, buy all kinds of things and stuff. Once I got home I was even more depressed now because now I was trying to figure out what and him! Did I just spend $ 300- $ 500 on this mess? Note that all of these were materialistic elements and that all of this was strictly trying to cover up all the pain I was feeling inside. Newsflash, no amount of money, men, drugs, sex, or anything else can make you love and know yourself. So keep reading because I want to share with you some ways how not knowing yourself will put you in danger.

3 signs you don’t know yourself …

You constantly need the approval of others. Now this is so dangerous because you don’t allow yourself to make any kind of decision because you fear what they will say. Or better yet, every time you do a great job at something, instead of patting yourself on the back, you don’t wait and look for others to do it. Well, this here can hurt and paralyze you and prevent you from stepping out of the box and taking risks. Look, you have to learn to be your biggest fan and if others cheer you on, great, but if not, you can do it yourself.

You sleep with every man who says something sweet to you or gives you money. I could go on and on about this, but I won’t. I will share with you that doing this type of act will only lead to one or two things; Unwanted pregnancy, STDs or, more than anything, low self-esteem. Every time you allow a man to climb into your sanctuary without any commitment or marriage, you are looking for that man to rescue you and save you from yourself. STOP, he is not responsible for your happiness or making you feel good about yourself. So from this point on, solve your problems and then you can make wiser decisions.

You are afraid of showing all the great things that you are good at. You play small because you lack the confidence to show the world what you are really made of. You fear that people will think you are all of that and conceited because you might outshine them. Or sometimes you stay in a lower paying job out of fear of your naysayers. This is the fastest way for you to always be unhappy and unhappy with yourself. Stop worrying about what other people think because that is none of your business.