Potty Learning for 3-Year-Olds: Avoid These 3 Mistakes
Are you potty training a 3 year old? Are you experiencing resistance or even regression?
These are common problems when preschoolers teach potty training; however, a simple checklist of common mistakes that are easy to solve can help you understand what to do to get your mentee back on track.
1. Ignore the signs of readiness.
While most 3-year-olds definitely show signs of potty training, some don’t.
Just as a handful of young children are ready to learn to use the bathroom very early, some are not equipped until much later.
It’s fine. It’s also true that if your 3-year-old has a developmental delay, potty training may need to wait a bit. Consulting with your pediatrician can clear up any confusion and give you the confidence to coach your child when he is ready and not because he feels guilty.
2. Training during stressful times.
Make a move, get divorced, pass away, change jobs, add a family member; They are all stressful events and they will all impact your 3-year-old.
Honestly, the bottom line here is that if you are stressed, your child is also subject to that stress.
A quiet and stable home is very helpful during potty training. You will need to be able to give your 3-year-old your undivided attention, not a divided focus.
Sure, everyday things come up, but if you’re in the midst of tough times, plan for potty training after you’ve gotten over these issues, as much as you can.
3. Go back to diapers.
It’s easy to get frustrated while potty training a 3-year-old and remember that diapers were more convenient in some ways. After all, you didn’t have to wait for your son to relieve himself or wonder if there would be an accident when he was away from home. You just changed the diaper; Closed topic.
Or maybe you have a 3-year-old who has decided to have daily accidents again. He has tried everything: outbursts, punishments, yelling, listening, everything he can think of.
So at his wits end, he has told his son that he will have to go back to diapering if he is going to act like a baby.
Maybe you’ve done it and put him back in diapers. And that doesn’t seem to have helped either. He still has accidents, either in underwear or in diapers.
You are so frustrated. Maybe he will never train!
Take it easy.
The first is the first. Take a break with your 3-year-old. Stop potty training for a few days or a couple of weeks. Keep your head straight and your heart calms down again. And let your child catch his breath too.
Then talk to her. Explain that she really is big and getting bigger. The diapers are ready. They no longer exist (during the day, at least). You understand that sometimes you will have an accident, but you are sure that you can stay clean and dry anytime you want.
Then do it. Put her back in her underwear and stick to her. No more diapers. It can be very confusing for a 3-year-old to go back and forth from underwear to diapers.
It may be more convenient for you to have it in diapers. It may simply be an act of frustration on your part. Everything understandable.
But it is not helpful for your preschooler.
Once in underwear, stay in underwear. Try different types of underwear, if you like. And make sure that when your child experiences an accident, they feel it. The more uncomfortable the better.
Over time, you will get two ideas. One, that wet or dirty underwear is uncomfortable. Two, that mom or dad mean what they say.
Both are ideas that your preschooler should take seriously.
So remember, when you’re potty training 3-year-olds, avoid the mistakes of ignoring readiness cues, trying to train during stressful times, and switching between diapers and underwear.
Give your preschooler a big hug and tell him how excited you are that he is growing up and that you are there to share the ride. That is what you will remember.
And that’s what matters.