Men entangled in mothers: Why do some men only have casual sex?

For some men, casual sex is something they will engage in from time to time, while there are others who only have casual sex. When it comes to the former, this could be something that occurs after a man has just been in a relationship.
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Going out with another woman, more or less immediately after breaking up with your girlfriend, can be a way to feel better. So it is unlikely that they will see this woman as a potential partner.

A short term option

As soon as you start to feel better about yourself, you may find that you are no longer interested in this woman. However, this does not mean that he will cheat on the woman, as he could have made it clear from the beginning that he is not looking for anything serious.

What he has said to the woman, along with his behavior, will make it clear what his intentions are. Then the woman will be totally in agreement with what is happening, or she will be going against her true needs.

another result

There is, of course, even the possibility that it will end up becoming more, although this was not the intention from the beginning. This could be seen as a sign that the man’s emotions are out of control, which is why he goes against his true needs.

Another way of looking at it would be to say that as this is a man who is used to being in a relationship; it is not a surprise that he wants more. Simply having sex with a woman will not be enough for him.

an empty experience

So for a short time, having casual sex may be what you feel comfortable with, but as time goes on, this will start to change. So in the same way that you don’t want to eat fast food all the time, you also don’t want to ‘fast sex’ all the time.

Your sexual needs can be satisfied by having casual sex, but the rest of your needs will end up being overlooked. This man may have had a fair amount of casual sex during his early years, or he may not have been interested in him then either.

A very different experience

For other men, casual sex may be the only thing that interests them. Then it won’t matter what a woman is like as a person, since she won’t have the need to experience anything else.

When a man can relate to this, he may discover that he has never been in a relationship with a woman. Or if he has, this may have been a relationship that was anything but satisfying, eliminating any desire to have another.

a need

This man might wonder why other men have relationships, believing that they are not worth the effort. He can even go further and say that women are only good for one thing.

Because he only wants sex, it could show that he is not even aware of his emotional needs. If you are not in touch with the rest of your needs, there will be no reason for you to see that you are overlooking certain needs.

All together

When it comes to the men she hangs out with, chances are most of her friends are the same. Then each person will support what the other person is doing, without giving them any reason to change their behavior.

Plus, casual sex is a normal part of the modern world, so there’s no need for them to think they’re doing something out of the ordinary. There are, for example, numerous dating apps that people can use to connect with another person.

a closer look

It could be said that there are a number of reasons why a man would only want to have sex and has no interest in anything else. And one of the reasons this may be is because of what his relationship with his mother was like early in his life.

This may have been a time in his life where his mother failed to respect his boundaries and used him to meet her own needs. Then there would have been a reversal of roles, with him becoming the father and his mother the daughter.

A surrogate spouse

Her father may have been physically or emotionally unavailable, causing her mother to seek him out to meet her emotional needs. It would not have been possible for her mother to realize that he was not an extension of her.

This would have prevented him from gaining the attunement he needed to develop boundaries and a strong sense of self. His mother’s attention has most likely caused him to feel smothered, helpless, trapped, and to experience shame.

a defense

What you felt at this stage of your life will not have disappeared over the years; it will stay inside of him. Therefore, if he had to share more than just her body with a woman, and he really became emotionally attached to her, he would trigger all these feelings again.

Naturally, this would make him feel overwhelmed, taking away his interest in sex altogether. Then it will not matter that the woman is not her mother since part of him will perceive her that way.

Awareness

Your priority will be to prevent these feelings from coming back, preparing them to deny their need to really connect with a woman. Thanks to how they live their lives, they may rarely get in touch with how they felt as children.

If a man can relate to this and wants to change his life, he may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.