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Frame Control Secrets to Boost Confidence and Eliminate Approach Anxiety

What is frame control? It is taking charge of the meaning of communication. If you have a strong framework, that means it’s hard for other people to creep in and change the meaning of the conversation, event, or interaction.

For example, suppose you decide to eat chicken. You have decided to go to your favorite chicken restaurant. There is no doubt in your mind that you are eating chicken. You don’t care if you go alone, or with the Pope himself.

On the way to the chicken store, you pass a lot of people. Everyone is trying to get you to change your mind and go with them. But you don’t budget. You’re going to get chicken. They are welcome to come, but you don’t care if they don’t want to. You are eating chicken.

Here is the important part. The framework is your decision to do something and stick with it. The stronger your intention, the less likely you are to quit, the stronger your framework will be. The content, what is inside the frame, is the chicken.

Here is the even more important part. People are naturally drawn to people with strong frames. In fact, people are so drawn to people with strong frames that they don’t really care about the content.

Let’s say you have a couple of friends. They both love tacos, pizza, and burgers, but aren’t too into chicken. You bump into them and they go out to dinner, but they’re not sure where they’re going. They will probably want to go with you, not because they like chicken, but because you have a strong body.

Why is this? Who knows. Perhaps because we develop DNA that tells us it’s safe and preferable to follow someone with a strong frame, rather than wander around with our own bland frames.

That is exactly why we have these things called cults. Cult leaders have incredibly strong frames. So strong that people commit suicide voluntarily just because the leader of the sect orders them to.

So how does this apply to seduction? Just like the guy above chose to eat chicken regardless of what others wanted, your goal should be to find a woman of quality regardless of what others think.

What is a quality woman? That is completely up to you. You have to figure this out for yourself. When you uncover as many details as you can about what makes a quality woman, in your eyes, and make it a solid yardstick when meeting women, your charisma will skyrocket and your anxiety to approach will disappear.

Most of the guys go out and talk to the girls because they expect them to get laid. Other guys go out and talk to the girls because they hope to find someone who will finally “really” see them.

You, on the other hand, do not need any of these models. You know your true self and you accept yourself. You know any girl would be lucky to be with you. And you have your own criteria for who she is. If any particular girl doesn’t meet any of your criteria, it’s not a big deal. You can easily find someone who does.

This, paradoxically, will make you the most attractive and sought after boy.

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